Many, if not all of us want to be attractive and likable. We even question ourselves, “why don’t they like me, is it how I smell, maybe I talk too much or probably I’m boring!?” Well in this write up, which is the last in the attraction series, we will consider tips that you can start using to be more attractive.
When it comes to attraction, your personality is just as, if not more, important than your physical appearance. If you think attraction boils down to grooming and genetics then you are gravely mistaken. Sure, maybe you need to practice good hygiene, yet you also need to practice your social skills. Improving your personality will make you more desirable by others, both in your professional and private life. Here are five ways in which you can be more attractive.
First and foremost you must practice your conversation skills. Yes you might be an introvert who is not so much a fun of being around people yet socializing is the only way you will make new friends or better still improve the connection with those you are already friends with. You shouldn’t have to change who you are but you should put some effort to improve your social skills. Open body language will make you seem more approachable and engaged, make eye contact which shows you are confident, lean forward slightly while respecting the other person’s space, smile, practice active listening, and pay attention to the emotions others communicate with you.
Practicing these skills will firstly create a connection which will lead to attraction.
Gain a sense of humor. We are all looking for happiness, questioning the meaning of life, and trying to make sense of the world. So when someone enters our life and brings a sense of joy, it can understandably be incredibly attractive when we are trying to live a life of meaning. Research from the University of Kansas has shown that humor is incredibly important in the process of creating romantic attraction. So if you are hoping to become more attractive, consider watching some stand-up comedy and try to understand the process of how jokes are made. Do not over do it though, it might come off as trying too hard and will kill attraction, so make it as natural as possible.
It’s better to have a relationship built on trust instead of lies. When you are honest In your daily life, other people tend to reciprocate when talking to you.
Practice honesty and try by all means to follow through on whatever you promised to do for someone. People will give you significant levels of respect because of your honesty.
People who have a sense of purpose and meaning are compelling because they portray strength. Don’t pretend to be who you are not, people get deception quite easily and that de-attracts them. Stop focusing on how others may or may not be judging you, it wastes your previous time. Start living for yourself. If you are happy others sense it and feel at ease in your presence.
Lastly, take care of yourself. People who take care of themselves are more attractive because they emanate self-discipline. Being in control of yourself means others don’t experience you as a burden to be cared for. Eating nutritiously, exercising regularly, and attending to your emotional health should be a part of your daily routine.
These are some of the self improvement tips that you can start practicing right away. And as you focus on maintaining a more attractive personality, you will find that being charming and charismatic will become much easier over time.